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Why I didn't blog for almost 3 months – death changes us.

Why I didn’t blog for almost 3 months – death changes us.

goodbye-means-miss-you-til-i-see-you-again  Before this one, my last blog post was almost 3 months ago. June 29th, it was a Wednesday.

I had client meetings and calls the rest of that week. I was also prepping to be away for a 7-day vacation.

That Sunday morning July 3rd, we started our vacation, a group cruise, it was 8 of us total. After about an hour drive away, our ship left the port at 4:30pm.

Unbeknownst to me, the day before, on Saturday afternoon July 2nd, something gravely tragic happened.  But I did not find out about it until Tuesday night, July 5th. It was a blur after that, yet the details were exhaustively high volume and each so massively heavy.  For a few reasons, I will not reveal the details… yet.
I literally shut down; for well over 2 months. I had to take medicine for high blood pressure, anxiety, and insomnia. It was like I was no longer me, I was a different person. Finally, after several sessions of intense brain therapy to process all that caused me to have PTSD (see what EMDR is, and yes it works, read more here), I am finally feeling enough like my old self again to actually share my thoughts, on anything, let alone sharing about the accident. 🙁

grief-at-your-own-speedDeath changes us.  That loss of someone changes us. We are not the same after. In time, we become the new us – someone described it as a new normal – interestingly enough, I’ve said those exact words to many clients.

But I think that the new normal is only after we are able to see the Divinity in the pain. There are no rules for grieving – we each make up the rules as we go, day by day – sometimes moment by moment. We grieve as we grieve, our own way, with owing no one at all an explanation of any kind, about anything, at all, ever…

Never Say Goodbye. 

When offering condolences, I’ve often shared the lyrics of these two songs as I’ve always felt the words to be tremendously healing… this time, I need them.

Friends Are Friends Forever – by: Michael W. Smith

Homesick – by: Mercy Me

It took me this past almost 3 months to share this. I have thought about it many times and while various ideas of revealing all of this came to mind, I never felt the right words had arrived yet. They came to me today, divinely I am sure… so I responded to that and started writing immediately. Having just read all my words, I want to tell you how very healing it has been for me to do so; thank you so much for reading. I pray sincerely that my sharing can help you if you need it. Never Say Goodbye. I thank God for His eternity. Love & Prayers.

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I do hope you find this to be valuable! If so, maybe consider sharing this with a friend, family, or colleague who may find it valuable too! 

Love-Love, Valerie Lynn 

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I am Christian, Personal Development Coach & Trainer, US Navy Veteran, Network & Internet Marketer and a Change Productivity Authority.

I Help People Create a Life of Balance by Removing the Chaos!
Reaching People… for People – starting with YOU reaching YOU!

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10 Comments

  1. Paul Brecht says:

    Beautifully written

    1. Thank you so much!

  2. Nancy Winkelspecht says:

    Needed this!
    Thank you, my friend!

    1. Great to hear, thank you so much!

  3. Valerie, thank you for sharing! Although my experiences have been different, I am not the same person either. I believe that great loss and trauma requires healing, and it has been my struggles that have made me better understand the importance of faith. Nobody really knows each of our journey within, but it what we learn that helps us help others. I am glad that your writing is healing!

    1. 🙂 thank you! and YAY for healing!!

  4. says:

    Thank you so much for sharing!

    1. 🙂 thank you!!

  5. says:

    The words, emotions, thoughts and feelings conveyed in this post are reflected in the lives behind them! Strength, grace, peace and tranquility will prevail when faith guides the soul…..

    1. Thank you so very, very much! 🙂

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